Sink Your Teeth into This

Many years ago there was a Chief Petty Office in the navy who was concerned that one of his messmates might drink his beer while he was in the head (washroom). To ensure that that didn’t happen, he came up with a very unique solution. Before leaving the table he simply took out one of his… Continue reading Sink Your Teeth into This

Loud and Clear

My father was diagnosed with Progressive Supranuclear Palsy. It is a Parkinson’s related disease that results from damage to nerve cells in the brain. It affects movement, control of walking, speech, swallowing, etc. It was tough for us to see his decline. It was particularly tough on him as his mind was good right up… Continue reading Loud and Clear

Questions One Should Never Ask

There is a common expression in courtroom proceedings that a lawyer should never ask a question unless s/he knows the answer. This would be one of those questions and it was asked about twelve years ago. To Student: “How stupid do you think I am?” Student: “It’s not a matter of degree, Mr. Caines.” Follow… Continue reading Questions One Should Never Ask

Basic Communication

Basic Communication When we communicate we do so by expressing either facts, opinions, feelings or needs: Facts are simply observations that are true. Opinions include thoughts, beliefs or conclusions based on one’s own observations and life experiences. Feelings are the emotions one experiences. Needs are those things that are necessary to achieve an objective. That’s… Continue reading Basic Communication

If You Really…….. Part 2

If You Really ……… Part 2 If you haven’t read the previous post then you should before reading this one (it’s short). I first read Verbal Self-Defence in 1992. From that point onward, I would often share this strategy with my upper-level students. I didn’t realize that a few years later I would end up… Continue reading If You Really…….. Part 2

If You Really ……….. Part 1

If You Really ……… Part 1 Early in my career I took an interest in improving my communication skills and in the study of body language. I read a great deal and learned a lot. Here is a strategy I picked up from the book, The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defence by S. Elgin. I… Continue reading If You Really ……….. Part 1

The Tinsel’s Silver Glow

The Tinsel’s Silver Glow Before I returned to university to complete my BEd degree I was employed as a Youth Counsellor at a juvenile detention centre. Essentially, I was a guard. It was a casual, six month position after which I was laid off. That suited me just fine. It was a few days before… Continue reading The Tinsel’s Silver Glow